Online dating multiple sclerosis
You’re single and you have decided to dive back into the dating pool. The most valuable lesson my MS nurse taught me was to budget my energy like I would with money.This time around, you are carrying MS as extra baggage. Through online dating, I was able to allocate my energy for meeting people I already felt a connection with.You are making yourself very vulnerable after spending all your resources building yourself back up. Having MS doesn’t matter to them, but when you’re dating, the reality of my MS and the implications it will have on the relationship are as invisible as my symptoms.I can’t afford to give my heart to someone that will check out once they realize the reality of being with someone with multiple sclerosis. I may not always be able to be there when you want me to, and that hurts me as much as it does you.
I found that bringing up my MS ended up becoming quite an organic process.
I started realizing how good of a person I am, in this past year, by starting on my spiritual journey. If it wasn’t for the love in those relationships, I couldn’t have had the pain, because if I didn’t love them, I would have grieved their end. I don’t think I can do the traditional dating in the online world. I also think he’ll be more like me fighting his own chronic disease.
More importantly realizing I don’t need someone to make me happy or to complete me, as pointed out in the movie Jerry Maguire.
By the time he realizes I can’t be the partner he wants me to be, it’s too late to back out without someone getting hurt.
Even though I feel I’m emotionally stronger these days, I still have a lot of scarring when it comes to matters of the heart.