You might be wondering why I mention talking on the phone this day and age, when people pretty much only text.
This is the exact reason that I encourage you to pick up the phone and talk to the girl you met online before you meet – because almost no one else does it, and that’s your opportunity to stand out from all the other guys.
I have heard quite a few times women complain about guys sending way too many message and never get to asking them out, which is lame.
Most women are not going to initiate that, so in case it’s not obvious to you yet – it’s your job to move from chatting online to talking on the phone and meeting in person.
This doesn’t always turn to be the case; no matter how much phone or email chemistry you share. Not a single spark.) Secondly, when you meet someone online, it’s easier for your imagination to get carried away by that heady mixture of excitement and hope.
(I once exchanged emails with someone for months and then flew internationally to meet him. It’s easier to idealize someone – to imagine that they possess all sorts of exceptional qualities and traits, and that they would make an ideal partner.
Wouldn’t you rather find that out earlier than later and avoid setting aside an evening for a date with her?
This dynamic can happen during the early stages of any romantic relationship, but when you meet online you have to navigate additional pitfalls, as well.
For starters, when you are interested in someone you meet online, you can assume that there will be good in-person chemistry.
If she is a little more invested into her interaction with you, she will actually be looking forward to talking to you and meeting you.
On the other hand, you should of course make sure that your e-mail communication doesn’t last for too long.
When you, the guy, decide to contact a woman online – you already know that you find her attractive enough sexually based on her photo, and you know that you want to meet her.